In this episode, we explore why the common advice to "just show up" often falls short for those struggling with visibility and self-expression. The host, Kim, shares her personal stories and client experiences to reveal that the real barrier isn't procrastination or lack of desire, but deep-seated beliefs and nervous system responses rooted in past experiences. 

We break down the four primary emotional needs—certainty, uncertainty, significance, and connection—and how the "freeze" response can meet these needs in unexpected ways. Listeners will learn why pushing harder can reinforce trauma, and why true progress comes from addressing the underlying need for safety.