In this episode, we challenge the common advice to "just take action" that’s given when people are feeling stuck in a freeze response. We explore why this approach can be harmful, how it overlooks the vital role of the nervous system, and why addressing the underlying emotional triggers and unmet core needs is essential for real progress. Through personal stories and viewer comments, we reveal how quick fixes and surface-level solutions often create dependency and shame, rather than lasting change. Tune in to discover why deeper tools for self-regulation, breaking unhealthy patterns, and finding compassion for yourself are what’s really needed when you want to thaw from the freeze.

In this episode, we explore why the common advice to "just show up" often falls short for those struggling with visibility and self-expression. The host, Kim, shares her personal stories and client experiences to reveal that the real barrier isn't procrastination or lack of desire, but deep-seated beliefs and nervous system responses rooted in past experiences. 

We break down the four primary emotional needs—certainty, uncertainty, significance, and connection—and how the "freeze" response can meet these needs in unexpected ways. Listeners will learn why pushing harder can reinforce trauma, and why true progress comes from addressing the underlying need for safety.