You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. Lighter. More at peace. You wanted to break free from the patterns that have kept you stuck for years. But somewhere along the way, healing became another full-time job.

Your bookshelf is overflowing with personal development books. Your podcast queue is stacked with mindset hacks. Your morning routine takes three hours because you’re journaling, meditating, EFT tapping, and pulling oracle cards.

And despite all of this, you’re still exhausted.

If this sounds familiar, you might be experiencing self-help burnout—a sneaky form of self-sabotage where healing becomes another way to prove your worth, control your emotions, or avoid the uncomfortable reality that healing isn’t a straight line.

You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better, right? To finally get some relief from the emotional weight you’ve been carrying for years. But somewhere along the way, healing started to feel like a second job—one you never actually clock out from.

Between the journaling, the meditations, the inner child work, the EFT tapping, the therapy sessions, and the endless cycle of self-help content, you’re exhausted. Instead of feeling lighter, it feels like you’re constantly trying to keep up. Like there’s always one more thing you should be doing. And let’s be real—sometimes it feels like you’re doing everything “right” but still not making progress.

So, if healing is supposed to be freeing…why does it feel like work?

You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. But now? You’re exhausted. You’ve read all the books, tried all the techniques, journaled until your hand hurts, yet, you still don’t feel “healed.” Instead, you feel burned out from healing itself.

If healing is supposed to bring relief, why does it feel like you’re running on empty? And does this mean you need to change everything or just change how you’re approaching your healing? Let’s talk about it.

Have you ever felt completely exhausted—even when you’re not doing anything physically demanding? Like no matter how much you rest, you still wake up feeling drained? You’re not alone.

Many people feel stuck in an endless cycle of burnout without realizing that the real culprit isn’t their workload or responsibilities—it’s unprocessed emotions and the way they’re approaching healing.

If you’ve been skimming the surface of your healing by overthinking, replaying the past, or constantly searching for the “one thing” that will finally bring relief, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted. Let’s break down why this happens—and what you can do to change it.

Anger, especially when rooted in past trauma, can be overwhelming and deeply destructive. However, by understanding its source and taking proactive steps to address it, you can begin to heal and regain control over your emotions. My journey from anger to healing was not easy, but it was necessary for my well-being and for the relationships I valued, and now I’m a totally different person. If you're struggling with similar feelings, know that you're not alone, and there is hope for a brighter, more peaceful future.

Today I want to share with you how my journey unfolded and possibly help you release the anger, in case you’re going through something similar.

Realizing that the root of my overwhelm was not my packed schedule, the labels, or the future and past worries, but the sense of being out of control, was a turning point. I started focusing on what I could manage and took small steps to regain control over my life. I practiced mindfulness to stay present, set realistic boundaries, and sought tools and strategies that worked for me.

I learned a lot down this bumpy road and I’m not the kind to gatekeep, so I want to share this with you.

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, it’s all too easy to take on more than we can handle. The desire to prove ourselves and manage the perceptions of others can lead us down a path of overcommitment, leaving us feeling unfocused, erratic, and utterly overwhelmed. This is a tale many of us know all too well, and it’s the focus of a particularly insightful podcast episode I recorded years ago.

Here are some of the key takeaways to help anyone struggling with similar issues:

Letting Go of Unnecessary Burdens

1. Identify What’s Not Yours

2. Practice Saying ‘No’

3. Delegate

Prioritizing Self-Care and Worthiness

1. Self-Care Rituals

2. Affirmations

3. Align Actions with Values

Building and Relying on Your Support System

1. Seek Support

2. Share Your Struggles

3. Set Boundaries